When Attraction Becomes A Distraction


Today (7/5) Pastor Mike Todd of Transformation Church gave a message that held a mirror up to my face and if you watched it, I’m sure it did to yours as well. His title was Attraction 2 Satisfaction Part 1 and while this was focused on #relationshipgoals, I found it applicable in other areas of my life.

Let me break this down the way I understood it and hopefully it blesses someone the way it did me.


Not Preachy…


First things first, I am not a preacher and will more than likely curse at some point throughout this blog so understand that I am an imperfect Christian, full of faith and belief and I try to live my life right; but I curse a little bit.


Now that that shit is out the way…. This message was everything for me because I have recently been struggling with being my authentic self while being discouraged by the lack of engagement (likes, follows, comments) on social media. See, my attraction to what SEEMED to be social success was becoming a distraction to my purpose and mission.


I’m 100% That… (you know the rest)


One of the first things that my husband reminded me of when I was pretty much sulking watching all my friends soar in numbers, I have a business that is generating revenue even when we are closed (we take delivery orders and online orders). I was so distracted by the lack of social numbers that I was forgetting that I was making real money, real time, regardless of the likes. Now don’t get me wrong, I definitely know and believe that part of that success is due to social media. The point is I know my financials and I know that I am ALREADY an entrepreneur; everything else is a bonus.


Let me elaborate further. My other brand, Unapologetically Living with Trese where you are reading this blog, was created as my need to have something that spoke to women like me. It is meant to incorporate all my Unapologetic truths in life including the fact that I’m a cannabusiness owner, a wife, mother, daughter, mom chef and more. One of the things I am most passionate about is my black community so lately I have been even more vocal on my platforms on that topic. This coincided at a time when many other bloggers that I followed or knew began to blow up. I started to question if my being who I am, was “good enough” for people. I began to doubt my self and my purpose. I began to base MY value off of something that shouldn’t truly matter; my desire to be “Insta Famous”. Meanwhile, I have a whole flourishing business that will still be here tomorrow if IG or FB goes away today. Misplaced attraction.


Sorry, back to the message…

Some points that Pastor Mike made with a Trese translation:

1. Attraction is often a thief of satisfaction – Baby, when you are focused on the things you are attracted to, especially if they aren’t immediately available to you OR not something you SHOULD be attracted to; you will find yourself constantly dissatisfied. This will happen even when you have everything positive around you. You are lusting for and desiring something outside of God’s vision for your life.

Example: I was distracted by the LACK of likes and followers instead of being encourage and affirmed in the positive messages and people I was reaching, confirming my purpose. My attraction to being "Insta-Famous" needed to be short lived.


2. Attraction